My daughter has had five miscarriages - lost a tube and ovary with one. Did lots and lots of bleeding - terrifying bleeding. She had the care she required because it was not yet made impossible, although absolutely nothing does anything about the extraordinary grief and sense of loss or can repair that part of her heart (and mine) that has been shattered.
She went through horribly expensive and painful fertility treatments for nothing but huge bills not even remotely covered by our BS American "healthcare" (as if) system.
She's 43 now and has given up. She would have died at least during one of those events if the treatment had not been available to her.
I understand- better than many, frankly- what is at stake. Her sorrow IS my sorrow and it never really goes anywhere. It's in a little box in my heart that I avoid looking to.
I despise everything about every bit of this entire election. All of it. So many terrible and monstrous events and future uncertainty/certainty.
I've lost all faith. All hope. And I don't know if I'll ever feel any of those things again.
I know this is not a helpful comment but it's the truth and that's all I have left.
I appreciate your grace and thank you. Pretty sure exhaustion informed my reply since I'm not normally comfy with my own thoughts/feelings, let alone sharing them. 😬 Wild days.
My heart breaks over so much, but especially that my mother is voting for him. She, who experienced violence and violation, is still voting for an oppressor because religion told her so. Weeping with you.
Barbaric and appalling. Even Jesus Christ would be repulsed by Christianity as it's practiced today, at least in some quarters. It is no longer a religion of compassion.
Joselli’s story broke my heart as well. I would have been her twenty years ago. “Christian” pro life virtues have sent us hurtling backwards. Please let next Tuesday be a giant step forward.
Yes, where do we put it?? I have a text thread with friends where we vent and rage together but it doesn’t feel like enough. I need public mourning. Collective wailing.
Thank you for posting, as a former NICU, post partum and antepartum nurse I am tragically sad to hear of this tragedy. Sharing on my FB page to influence female voters. Time for Roe v Wade the law of the land as per Kamala.
This sad story is almost identical to what happened to Savita, a young woman in Ireland, who was denied the appropriate intervention by the Catholic hospital regulations in 2012. Her tragic and completely avoidable death caused an outcry that in the end resulted in a change to the Irish constitution making abortion legal at last. At the time, Catholic Ireland was blamed and rightly so for its Draconian and medieval legal situation and the rule of the Catholic church was compared to the Taliban. It was the hard work of the women of Ireland that brought about the necessary change. We have work to do, all over the world. The lives of women are nothing to men thirsty for power.
unfortunately, the answer to your opening question is YES. absolutely horrrifying what has happened in our lifetime: decade after decade the endless degradation of women and girls. i remember as a young teenager how embarrassing it was to have to deal with menstruation. what an innocent i was. i had no idea how aggressively women would be robbed of their selfhood, their right to determine what could or could not be done to their own bodies.
Yes.
My daughter has had five miscarriages - lost a tube and ovary with one. Did lots and lots of bleeding - terrifying bleeding. She had the care she required because it was not yet made impossible, although absolutely nothing does anything about the extraordinary grief and sense of loss or can repair that part of her heart (and mine) that has been shattered.
She went through horribly expensive and painful fertility treatments for nothing but huge bills not even remotely covered by our BS American "healthcare" (as if) system.
She's 43 now and has given up. She would have died at least during one of those events if the treatment had not been available to her.
I understand- better than many, frankly- what is at stake. Her sorrow IS my sorrow and it never really goes anywhere. It's in a little box in my heart that I avoid looking to.
I despise everything about every bit of this entire election. All of it. So many terrible and monstrous events and future uncertainty/certainty.
I've lost all faith. All hope. And I don't know if I'll ever feel any of those things again.
I know this is not a helpful comment but it's the truth and that's all I have left.
Thank you for sharing this with us, here. I hear you -- am abiding with you. May things be ok.
I appreciate your grace and thank you. Pretty sure exhaustion informed my reply since I'm not normally comfy with my own thoughts/feelings, let alone sharing them. 😬 Wild days.
I know. Monumental rage ripples through me like uterine contractions for that young woman for all the women dying and harmed by murderous legislators.
Like an eighth sacrament. 💔
My heart breaks over so much, but especially that my mother is voting for him. She, who experienced violence and violation, is still voting for an oppressor because religion told her so. Weeping with you.
Barbaric and appalling. Even Jesus Christ would be repulsed by Christianity as it's practiced today, at least in some quarters. It is no longer a religion of compassion.
I daresay if it’s even religion any longer.
Joselli’s story broke my heart as well. I would have been her twenty years ago. “Christian” pro life virtues have sent us hurtling backwards. Please let next Tuesday be a giant step forward.
This unnecessary death gutted me too. My rage and sorrow have nowhere to go. I’m tucked in here beside you, weeping too.
Yes. Gutted. That's what it feels like.
Yes, where do we put it?? I have a text thread with friends where we vent and rage together but it doesn’t feel like enough. I need public mourning. Collective wailing.
The Texas lawmakers who passed those repressive, mysogynists laws, should be charged with that young woman's murder.
I am so sick and tired of the religious zealots that lay judgement. They sure as hell have not studied The Bible.
Exactly. It's just gross.
Thank you for posting, as a former NICU, post partum and antepartum nurse I am tragically sad to hear of this tragedy. Sharing on my FB page to influence female voters. Time for Roe v Wade the law of the land as per Kamala.
Weeping beside you.
This sad story is almost identical to what happened to Savita, a young woman in Ireland, who was denied the appropriate intervention by the Catholic hospital regulations in 2012. Her tragic and completely avoidable death caused an outcry that in the end resulted in a change to the Irish constitution making abortion legal at last. At the time, Catholic Ireland was blamed and rightly so for its Draconian and medieval legal situation and the rule of the Catholic church was compared to the Taliban. It was the hard work of the women of Ireland that brought about the necessary change. We have work to do, all over the world. The lives of women are nothing to men thirsty for power.
unfortunately, the answer to your opening question is YES. absolutely horrrifying what has happened in our lifetime: decade after decade the endless degradation of women and girls. i remember as a young teenager how embarrassing it was to have to deal with menstruation. what an innocent i was. i had no idea how aggressively women would be robbed of their selfhood, their right to determine what could or could not be done to their own bodies.
I love the expression, I abide with you. What a great way to relay understanding and so much more.
I too rage against the night, to fight against the horrors raining down on us. May we prevail.
Gutted
Yes. It is okay. With you. xos
I cannot believe we have come to this and the entire country is trembling on the verge of it being even worse if we can imagine that possible.