I am so furious. In the brilliant book Nightbitch, by Rachel Yoder, she asks the extremely important question “why are men never called WORKING FATHERS?” we all know it’s because in our sick society woman are expected to carry the burden of childcare. Always. Simply because they are women. Time for us to rise up like the warriors we are and strike down the patriarchy and the churches and governments it spawned.
The worst part of this travesty is that our fucking system of justice supports this, as do many people - either actively in one way or another, or by benign neglect. And snip snip go what passes for men in our government via the laws
the simpering fools pass/don’t pass. Even worse is that our anger both sustains us and has the power to potentially kill us.
I stopped trying to calculate because my brain just went to "fuck that" and a headache. Rage is indeed the appropriate response. I wish our collective rage could *change* something.
My mom used to make similar arguments about her divorce settlement with my father, which (although he faithfully paid child support) invariably left her with the bulk of the parenting duties and expenses. As is almost always true for mothers, I suspect. And that's without the special-needs factor. Divorce is a shitshow for everyone, but especially for women.
I am so furious. In the brilliant book Nightbitch, by Rachel Yoder, she asks the extremely important question “why are men never called WORKING FATHERS?” we all know it’s because in our sick society woman are expected to carry the burden of childcare. Always. Simply because they are women. Time for us to rise up like the warriors we are and strike down the patriarchy and the churches and governments it spawned.
Love,
Rebecca
Thank you for your fury.
I don't "like" this. I hate this!
Fury is appropriate
I appreciate fury.
The worst part of this travesty is that our fucking system of justice supports this, as do many people - either actively in one way or another, or by benign neglect. And snip snip go what passes for men in our government via the laws
the simpering fools pass/don’t pass. Even worse is that our anger both sustains us and has the power to potentially kill us.
Oh my good yes.
“Liking” this feels inappropriate as I’m seething at the disrespect.
This truly sucks. And of course, he knows you won’t let your child suffer no matter how much he bails. He counts on that.
Patriarchy. Fuck it. It is not good for any of us, not even the fucking men.
I'm terrible at math but even I can see who wins and who loses here. I don't know if my rage helps at all but you have it.
I stopped trying to calculate because my brain just went to "fuck that" and a headache. Rage is indeed the appropriate response. I wish our collective rage could *change* something.
My mom used to make similar arguments about her divorce settlement with my father, which (although he faithfully paid child support) invariably left her with the bulk of the parenting duties and expenses. As is almost always true for mothers, I suspect. And that's without the special-needs factor. Divorce is a shitshow for everyone, but especially for women.
And the condescending tone/attitude is the cherry on the whole shit sundae. I'm behind you 100%. Down the Patriarchy!! Sending love, N2
You are the best! 'word problems for the weary' brought an irritated smile to my face. The amount of work we do is unfucking believable. Love you!
My blood is boiling!